Live Your Life11:14 AM
'Live your life'
That's the key slogan I've been hearing and the advice I keep receiving for the past few months. Maybe because I am approaching spinsterhood since I am going to be 25 in a few weeks? Apparently, that's the official age when every girl's family start dreading that their daughter shall remain single forever.
'Live your life Rummy'
Pretty weird that I get these hints every now and then that I'd definitely be married come June and hence the constant lecture from older women that my life will change drastically this year. Seriously? Who made you psychic? I mean I appreciate every single one of them for telling me to enjoy my life to the fullest, but it's as if I have a death sentence written on my forehead and everyone fears that I'll disappear and not be the same.
'3eeshi 7ayatek 7abibti'
'Why are you telling me this now?' a question I've asked and everyone goes on the experinece of freedom in single town and how tough it was of a transition to be in marriage & kids-ville.
'Trust me if you were married, your husband won't let you go out that way'
'Enjoy going crazy, because come next year wallah your life will be different'
'Your life will change so enjoy what's left of it now'
'Omani men are too oriental in their thinking, he won't let you work'
'With kids on the way in a few years, I feel sorry for you'
Really?! I'm fed-up with this attitude. Ya5i being married or not is a personal choice, and yes I am among those girls who have shut the door close to any prospect suitor for the sake of my career. But that doesn't mean that I'd succumb to what society wants from me. I'll be married when I feel like it's time for me to be. Furthermore, what's up with women over here and being too judgmental and too submissive? Ya3ni I get that life will change and all, but seriously why do many Khaleeji women (yes I used khaleeji because its a dilemma everywhere in the GCC) just forget who they were and ARE the moment they are married? There's so much potential to change and forward yourself in every aspect, that doesn't simply stop when you get married and have kids. Laish this mentality?
On a final note, you and only YOU can determine how your life will turn out to be. So act on it.