It was a normal Friday, which I spent most of my day sleeping and relaxing since it’s practically my only day off. The pace of the day was pretty smooth and calm. Nothing to rush to, nothing to hurry on, and there was nothing worth to make me move my butt from the sofa that I have been enjoying watching TV on. Well that was until, a frantic phone call changed it all.
‘What? You must be kidding me’ I answered to a cry for help. Rushing to their house, my mom and I barged in to hear quarrels and screams from one person, while the others tried their best to calm her down. Arriving at the scene, I saw my friend’s mother practically losing her senses as her eyes bobbed out of their socket while threatening to kill herself. ‘He doesn't want me anymore’ she screams while everyone else urges her to recite verses from the Qur'an to dispel any evil thoughts she has.
It took an entire army of women (literally more than 30 people) to get her to realize what she was trying to do. I wouldn’t blame her for her reaction and the shock she was sustained to. I know I might even do worse if I heard the same news. Her husband went and got himself another wife. And it wasn’t any wife. No, he had to get himself married to his daughter’s best friend, an 18 year old kid. A girl who used to always spend time in their house, the same girl she cared for like she was her own daughter.
Days after the whole incident happened, she packed her bags and left her kids; an 18 year old, a 16 year old, a 7 year old and a 2 year old behind. She couldn’t take it anymore and decided to teach her husband a lesson for not cherishing her by dumping her kids' responsibilities on him.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes? Would you leave your kids behind? Or would you agree and accept that you’d have to share your husband with someone who was like a daughter to you? Would you leave your past behind for soul searching?
Polygamy like divorce does affect kids in the bigger picture, but not many think of it that way. It’s high time people think before they act on something just because they feel like doing so.